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Choose Yourself!

When was the last time you did something for yourself?

Do you go about life fulfilling the need of others over your own? Some may argue that putting the needs of others in front of your own is selfless. However, if all you do is put up with that handsome guy who’s inconsistent or go to the club because your friends want you to, I can’t call that selflessness.

For lack of a better word, I’d call it “stupidity,” but let’s not go there because today, I want you to reflect on the subtle art of choosing yourself.  

What Does It Mean to Choose Yourself?

You can’t thrive in this world if you don’t choose yourself. You’ve got to stop meeting other people’s expectations or doing useless things for people who call you only when they’re in need.

When you start choosing yourself, something strange will start happening in your life. It may feel uncomfortable at first, but soon, it will feel like a burden off your shoulders.

So, if you are still wondering what it means to choose yourself, here we go.

You Are Not Afraid to Be You

Choosing yourself means not being afraid to be you. You are no longer tied to what society upholds as good or bad; hence you can take a different path and are not afraid of what others will think.

Say you were never a top student but have decided to pursue a career in computer science. Society will make you think that’s it’s too difficult for you and you’ll never graduate. However, you know yourself and your capabilities. All those voices in your head telling you it can’t be done are the voices of your friends, family, and society echoing. You don’t have to listen.

Wake up and do the impossible because it can be done.

You Focus on Your Goals and Dreams

 

Again, choosing yourself means pursuing your goals and your dreams. You don’t have to pretend to like something. If you don’t want to be a doctor and would rather be sky diving, choose yourself. It frees you from what others will think and allows you to pursue only the things that genuinely interest you.

You Never Let the Things Happening to You Define You

Life is a series of events happening to us. Whether you’re single, married with three kids, a student, or whether you’ve undergone tremendous trauma, do not let these things define you. Many people look at their bank account and go, “I’ll never save up enough to start my business.” The truth is that savings are not the only source of capital, and not seeing that means you’ve let your circumstances define you. 

If you’ve experienced hardships, they do not define who you are. The truth is that you can shake it off and start living as a new person by choosing yourself.

You Are Always Enough

Choosing you means you are not afraid to peel away from the titles that people have given you. That you can stand by your principles and show others who you are behind the curtain and charade that you’re putting up on social media. It means not being afraid to be alone. Being able to go to sleep knowing you don’t need anyone to complete you.

Your Self-Care Is A Priority

When you choose yourself, you start understanding the value of living a fulfilled life. This means taking care of your health physically, mentally, and spiritually. It means you can say NO to chips and fries without being afraid of your friends’ opinions. That you can read your Bible for you and that you can hit the gym all because you want to and not because of what others think about you.

You Live Truthfully

Choosing you means making the choices that will benefit you in the long run rather than gratifying instant needs. It means not being impulsive or giving in to the influence of social media, your family, friends, and relatives. Like, why get into debt for a Gucci when you could have added what you have to your end game?

Are You Selfish When You Choose Yourself?

Choosing yourself is an art. You don’t want to come off as snobbish, but you also want to live life at your own pace. It’s not selfish to express your thoughts and feelings with confidence. It’s not selfish to build a life that works for you, to feel whole, to break through the limits of others, and to live life on your terms.

Choosing yourself means drawing boundaries, fighting for your beliefs, overcoming the fear of confrontation, and acknowledging your thoughts and feelings.

In conclusion

It’s like a breakthrough from the chains you feel but don’t see when you choose yourself. You start feeling worthy, courageous, and comfortable.

It does not have to be complicated. Start today, and the rest will follow!

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