When was the last time you did something for
yourself?
Do you go about life fulfilling the need of
others over your own? Some may argue that putting the needs of others in front
of your own is selfless. However, if all you do is put up with that handsome
guy who’s inconsistent or go to the club because your friends want you to, I can’t
call that selflessness.
For lack of a better word, I’d call it “stupidity,”
but let’s not go there because today, I want you to reflect on the subtle art
of choosing yourself.
What Does It Mean to Choose Yourself?
You can’t thrive in this world if you don’t choose
yourself. You’ve got to stop meeting other people’s expectations or doing
useless things for people who call you only when they’re in need.
When you start choosing yourself, something strange
will start happening in your life. It may feel uncomfortable at first, but
soon, it will feel like a burden off your shoulders.
So, if you are still wondering what it means
to choose yourself, here we go.
You Are Not Afraid to Be You
Choosing yourself means not being afraid to
be you. You are no longer tied to what society upholds as good or bad; hence
you can take a different path and are not afraid of what others will think.
Say you were never a top student but have
decided to pursue a career in computer science. Society will make you think that’s
it’s too difficult for you and you’ll never graduate. However, you know
yourself and your capabilities. All those voices in your head telling you it
can’t be done are the voices of your friends, family, and society echoing. You
don’t have to listen.
Wake up and do the impossible because it can
be done.
You Focus on Your Goals and Dreams
Again, choosing yourself means pursuing your
goals and your dreams. You don’t have to pretend to like something. If you don’t
want to be a doctor and would rather be sky diving, choose yourself. It frees
you from what others will think and allows you to pursue only the things that
genuinely interest you.
You Never Let the Things Happening to You Define You
Life is a series of events happening to us. Whether
you’re single, married with three kids, a student, or whether you’ve undergone
tremendous trauma, do not let these things define you. Many people look at
their bank account and go, “I’ll never save up enough to start my business.”
The truth is that savings are not the only source of capital, and not seeing
that means you’ve let your circumstances define you.
You Are Always Enough
Choosing you means you are not afraid to
peel away from the titles that people have given you. That you can stand by
your principles and show others who you are behind the curtain and charade that
you’re putting up on social media. It means not being afraid to be alone. Being
able to go to sleep knowing you don’t need anyone to complete you.
Your Self-Care Is A Priority
When you choose yourself, you start
understanding the value of living a fulfilled life. This means taking care of
your health physically, mentally, and spiritually. It means you can say NO to
chips and fries without being afraid of your friends’ opinions. That you can read
your Bible for you and that you can hit the gym all because you want to and not
because of what others think about you.
You Live Truthfully
Choosing you means making the choices that
will benefit you in the long run rather than gratifying instant needs. It means
not being impulsive or giving in to the influence of social media, your family,
friends, and relatives. Like, why get into debt for a Gucci when you could have
added what you have to your end game?
Are You Selfish When You Choose Yourself?
Choosing yourself is an art. You don’t want
to come off as snobbish, but you also want to live life at your own pace. It’s
not selfish to express your thoughts and feelings with confidence. It’s not
selfish to build a life that works for you, to feel whole, to break through the
limits of others, and to live life on your terms.
Choosing yourself means drawing boundaries,
fighting for your beliefs, overcoming the fear of confrontation, and acknowledging
your thoughts and feelings.
In conclusion
It’s like a breakthrough from the chains you
feel but don’t see when you choose yourself. You start feeling worthy,
courageous, and comfortable.
It does not have to be complicated. Start today, and the rest will follow!
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