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"When TRUST is Lost, SORRY Means Nothing!!

 

Trust.

The building block and cement of any relationship. This elemental force takes the longest to build, seconds to break, and forever to restore. 

The dictionary meaning of trust is a belief in the character, strength, or truth of something or someone. When we don't trust another person, we can't attach ourselves to them, and we can't allow them to connect to us. 

To trust someone is to lay yourself bare. 

Trust is the foundation of love,  honesty, open communication, respect, vulnerability, passion, and every element that builds a strong relationship. While infidelity is often the leading cause of betrayal, other things can cause distrust in a relationship. 

These include. 

  • A pattern of breaking promises or going back on your word
  • Withholding or concealing information 
  • Being self-centered/ pursuing self-interest 
  • Not being there in times of need 
  • Being unable to deal with stress in a relationship
  • Dishonesty and manipulation 
  • A pattern of refusing to share your feelings openly 
  • A habit of being ungrateful, negative, and overprotective
  • Passive aggression 

When trust is lost, Sorry doesn't mean anything. It's like a broken mirror. You may put back the pieces, but the cracks will always be visible. 

When someone betrays your trust, shock and numbness cannot begin to explain how you feel. These feelings are followed by despair, anxiety, sadness, and anger. Even if the other person apologizes, you will still have unending questions as to why it happened. It leaves you physically sick, hurt, and it changes everything you knew about your partner.

Broken trust is a loss that needs to be grieved. It takes time to heal and move on. But before you move on, take time to reflect, look back, and even consider your relationship. 

Building lost trust is never easy. People wonder why you can't stop talking about it and move on. But what they don't know is disloyalty embeds hurt feelings deeply into your being. It erodes your very self and strips you of anything good you had going on. 


SO, before you break someone's trust;

  • Say what you mean and mean what you say
  • Be vulnerable 
  • Express your feelings 
  • Give the benefit of the doubt
  • Take a risk toward something rewarding together
  • Reciprocate without feeling pushed AND
  • Remember respect above all

And if you want someone to regain trust in you;

  • Prove your love with actions, not words
  • Correct your behavior consistently 
  • Address your insecurities. 

In this day and age, trust is not readily available. So don't expect people to trust you for showing up once in a while. It's all about consistency, forgiveness, faithfulness, caring, honesty, and responsibility.

Trust is to a relationship what oxygen is to a scuba diver. If you don't have it, your relationship is built on sinking sand. 

 

 


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